\u201cNe gjithmon\u00eb kemi ndar\u00eb ndjenjat tona dhe kemi folur p\u00ebr gjith\u00e7ka. Tani diskutimet tona duken pothuajse t\u00eb nj\u00ebanshme. Dikur flisnim p\u00ebr shpresat dhe \u00ebndrrat tona p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen, por tani mezi e bind q\u00eb t\u00eb dalim n\u00eb nj\u00eb dark\u00eb. Nuk e di se \u00e7far\u00eb ka ndryshuar.”<\/p>\n
K\u00ebto jan\u00eb disa nga frazat q\u00eb p\u00ebrmbajn\u00eb shqet\u00ebsimet e njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb kan\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar ndihm\u00ebn e Mark Travers, Ph.D., psikolog, p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjetur p\u00ebrgjigje p\u00ebr mosdisponueshm\u00ebrin\u00eb e partner\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n
Si\u00e7 thekson ai n\u00eb nj\u00eb artikull n\u00eb Psychology Today, realiteti i trisht\u00eb i dashuris\u00eb dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve \u00ebsht\u00eb se, sado t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqemi, ndjenjat e njer\u00ebzve mund t\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb. Megjithat\u00eb, pavar\u00ebsisht k\u00ebtij ndryshimi, njer\u00ebzit mund t\u00eb zgjedhin t\u00eb q\u00ebndrojn\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb nga rehatia, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb nga frika.<\/p>\n
Nj\u00eb studim i m\u00ebparsh\u00ebm, i publikuar n\u00eb Human Communication Research, e konfirmon k\u00ebt\u00eb fakt, duke arritur n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimin se kur nj\u00eb partner mbetet n\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie nga e cila do t\u00eb preferonte t\u00eb largohej, ata do t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorin disa strategji p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar \u201cdistanca psikologjike\u201d mes vetes dhe partnerit t\u00eb tyre diku tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n
Sipas autorit t\u00eb studimit Jon Hess, ekzistojn\u00eb tre sjellje baz\u00eb distancuese q\u00eb mund t\u00eb sh\u00ebrbejn\u00eb si udh\u00ebzuese n\u00ebse partneri po i p\u00ebrdor ato kund\u00ebr jush. P\u00ebrqafimet, puthjet dhe seksi mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb rralla ose t\u00eb duken t\u00eb rast\u00ebsishme.<\/p>\n
Ai i shmang diskutimet p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen!<\/p>\n
Duke kufizuar diskutimin p\u00ebr \u00e7do plan apo ngjarje t\u00eb ardhshme, si dhe \u00e7do p\u00ebrpjekje reale p\u00ebr komunikim, partneri q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i dashuruar do t\u00eb shmang\u00eb \u00e7do angazhim apo premtim p\u00ebr lidhjen. Planeve ose ftesave mund t’u p\u00ebrgjigjen me “ndoshta” ose “t\u00eb shohim”.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebrve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj, stili i tyre i komunikimit do t\u00eb b\u00ebhet gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb sip\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsor.<\/p>\n
Ka sjellje pasive-agresive<\/p>\n
Sjellja pasive-agresive \u00ebsht\u00eb shpesh delikate dhe mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr t’u dalluar. Partneri juaj mund t\u00eb shpreh\u00eb pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebrmes veprimeve indirekte n\u00eb vend t\u00eb komunikimit t\u00eb drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb, si p.sh. refuzimi i p\u00ebrfshirjes n\u00eb bised\u00eb. Ai madje mund t\u00eb vonoj\u00eb ose “harroj\u00eb” q\u00ebllimisht t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb gj\u00ebra q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr ju ose p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien. Dhe n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb merren me \u00e7\u00ebshtjet drejtp\u00ebrdrejt, ata mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorin sarkaz\u00ebm ose t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb v\u00ebrejtje fyese.<\/p>\n
Ka sjellje aktive-agresive, ku kritikat jan\u00eb t\u00eb drejtp\u00ebrdrejta, si dhe shp\u00ebrthime t\u00eb pashpjegueshme dhe t\u00eb papritura zem\u00ebrimi p\u00ebr \u00e7\u00ebshtje t\u00eb par\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme. Megjithat\u00eb, n\u00eb t\u00eb dyja rastet, rezultati \u00ebsht\u00eb i nj\u00ebjt\u00eb: do t\u00eb ndiheni t\u00eb p\u00ebrjashtuar dhe t\u00eb pad\u00ebshiruar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u201cNe gjithmon\u00eb kemi ndar\u00eb ndjenjat tona dhe kemi folur p\u00ebr gjith\u00e7ka. Tani diskutimet tona duken pothuajse t\u00eb nj\u00ebanshme. Dikur flisnim p\u00ebr shpresat dhe \u00ebndrrat tona p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen, por tani mezi e bind q\u00eb t\u00eb dalim n\u00eb nj\u00eb dark\u00eb. Nuk e di se \u00e7far\u00eb ka ndryshuar.” K\u00ebto jan\u00eb disa nga frazat q\u00eb p\u00ebrmbajn\u00eb shqet\u00ebsimet e<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":11389,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-11388","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-lifestyle"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11388","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11388"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11388\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11390,"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11388\/revisions\/11390"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11389"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11388"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11388"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11388"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}