Me siguri e ke d\u00ebgjuar th\u00ebnien, \u201cN\u00ebse nuk ke di\u00e7ka t\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb, mos thuaj asgj\u00eb.\u201d Sado i p\u00ebrs\u00ebritur t\u00eb ngjaj\u00eb, ky mendim ka vler\u00eb n\u00eb shum\u00eb raste.<\/p>\n
Pa dyshim, ka momente kur disa mendime ose v\u00ebzhgime \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb lihen t\u00eb patheksuara p\u00ebr t\u00eb shmangur konflikte t\u00eb panevojshme n\u00eb lidhjen t\u00ebnde. Por kur b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie romantike, mbajtja brenda e disa mendimeve t\u00eb pak\u00ebndshme mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb d\u00ebm sesa dobi. N\u00eb fakt, ka disa gj\u00ebra q\u00eb, edhe pse t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira p\u00ebr t\u2019u shprehur, duhet gjithmon\u00eb t\u00eb fliten hapur.<\/p>\n
Ja tre prej tyre, dhe arsyeja pse ato duhet t\u00eb shprehen n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb mbahen brenda.<\/p>\n
1. N\u00ebse je i\/e nervozuar me partnerin\/en<\/p>\n
\u00cbsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb fsheh\u00ebsh gj\u00ebrat n\u00ebn qilim kur je i\/e nervozuar me partnerin\/en t\u00ebnd\/e, sidomos n\u00ebse b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka t\u00eb vog\u00ebl. Mund t\u00eb frik\u00ebsohesh p\u00ebr t\u00eb filluar nj\u00eb grindje p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka q\u00eb duket si asgj\u00eb, ose mund t\u00eb ndihesh se nuk ia vlen ta p\u00ebrmend\u00ebsh fare. Si rezultat, mund t\u2019i jap\u00ebsh trajt\u00eb heshtjes, t\u00eb t\u00ebrhiqesh, ose thjesht t\u00eb shmang\u00ebsh krejt\u00ebsisht bised\u00ebn. Megjithat\u00eb, si\u00e7 e dim\u00eb shum\u00eb mir\u00eb, frustrimet e pazgjidhura nuk zhduken vetvetiu; ato vet\u00ebm fermentohen n\u00ebn sip\u00ebrfaqe.<\/p>\n
Nj\u00eb studim i vitit 2022 ndri\u00e7on pse jemi t\u00eb t\u00ebrhequr nga diskutimi i pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsive tona. Sipas hulumtimit, njer\u00ebzit shpesh heshtin p\u00ebr nj\u00eb s\u00ebr\u00eb arsyesh, duke p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb k\u00ebto:<\/p>\n
-T\u00ebrheqja nga dhimbja emocionale;<\/p>\n
-Shprehja e frustrimeve pa u p\u00ebrballur drejtp\u00ebrdrejt me to;<\/p>\n
-D\u00ebnimi i partnerit duke munguar komunikimi;<\/p>\n
-Shpresa q\u00eb partneri do ta kuptoj\u00eb vet\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb gabim;<\/p>\n
-Shmangia e rrezikut p\u00ebr t\u00eb l\u00ebnduar ndjenjat e partnerit.<\/p>\n
Nd\u00ebrsa k\u00ebto arsye mund t\u00eb duken t\u00eb vlefshme n\u00eb moment, ato n\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit e vendosin rehatin\u00eb t\u00ebnde mbi mir\u00ebqenien e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies. P\u00ebrdorimi i heshtjes p\u00ebr t\u00eb trajtuar problemet, mund t\u00eb shmang\u00eb p\u00ebrkoh\u00ebsisht konfliktin, por rrall\u00ebher\u00eb \u00e7on n\u00eb zgjidhje. N\u00eb fakt, kur t\u00ebrhiqesh emocionalisht, kjo nuk b\u00ebn gj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr ve\u00e7se krijon konfuzion dhe ankth te partneri yt, i cili mund t\u00eb mos e kuptoj\u00eb fare se \u00e7far\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019ju shqet\u00ebsuar. Mendo pak p\u00ebr ndjenj\u00ebn kur je ti personi q\u00eb merr trajtimin me heshtje. Lihesh n\u00eb err\u00ebsir\u00eb, duke pyetur veten se \u00e7far\u00eb shkoi keq dhe pse partneri yt duket i distancuar. Kjo munges\u00eb komunikimi mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb q\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje t\u00eb vogla t\u00eb duken shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha sesa mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb n\u00eb realitet.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb vend t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb e sh\u00ebndetshme t\u00eb ngresh shqet\u00ebsimet e tua, pavar\u00ebsisht se sa t\u00eb vogla mund t\u00eb duken. Kjo qasje hap der\u00ebn p\u00ebr nj\u00eb bised\u00eb produktive ku t\u00eb dy mund t\u00eb trajtoni \u00e7\u00ebshtjen s\u00eb bashku, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb ta lini t\u00eb ziej\u00eb n\u00eb heshtje. Duke folur, tregoni respekt p\u00ebr partnerin tuaj dhe p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien vet\u00eb dhe, m\u00eb mir\u00eb akoma, i jep mund\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar dhe reaguar ndaj ndjenjave t\u00eb tua.<\/p>\n
2. N\u00ebse ke nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr siguri<\/p>\n
\u00c7dokush ka momente kur k\u00ebrkon pak m\u00eb shum\u00eb dashuri dhe siguri. Qoft\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb d\u00ebgjuar se ende je i\/e dashur, vler\u00ebsuar ose i\/e d\u00ebshiruar, k\u00ebrkimi p\u00ebr konfirmim \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb normale e \u00e7do marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje. Megjithat\u00eb, shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz hezitojn\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb siguri nga frika se mund t\u00eb duken t\u00eb ngjitur ose t\u00eb pasigurt. Pyetje si \u201cA m\u00eb do ende?\u201d ose \u201cA jam ende t\u00ebrheq\u00ebs\/e p\u00ebr ty?\u201d mund t\u00eb duken t\u00eb \u00e7uditshme, por kjo nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr siguri \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb larg nga ndjenjat e turpit.<\/p>\n
K\u00ebrkimi p\u00ebr siguri nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb shenj\u00eb dob\u00ebsie. N\u00eb fakt, mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb aspekt i sh\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm dhe i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm p\u00ebr ruajtjen e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies. Nj\u00eb studim i vitit 2021 nga Japanese Psychological Research, zbuloi se k\u00ebrkimi p\u00ebr siguri ka nj\u00eb rol t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm n\u00eb ruajtjen e lidhjes emocionale dhe k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsis\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie p\u00ebr t\u00eb dy partner\u00ebt. P\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet afatshkurtra dhe afatgjata, sjelljet e k\u00ebrkimit t\u00eb siguris\u00eb ishin t\u00eb lidhura me rritjen e k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsis\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie dhe sjelljet e ruajtjes s\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies.<\/p>\n
Thjesht\u00ebsisht, shprehja e nevoj\u00ebs t\u00ebnde p\u00ebr siguri mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb efektin e d\u00ebshiruar, duke t\u00eb afruar m\u00eb shum\u00eb me partnerin. Kur k\u00ebrkon konfirmim, i jep partnerit mund\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb plot\u00ebsuar nevojat e tua emocionale dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb shfaqur kujdesin e tij\/saj n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb prekshme. Kjo mund t\u00eb sjell\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb shenja dashurie dhe mb\u00ebshtetjeje, nga t\u00eb cilat p\u00ebrfitojn\u00eb t\u00eb dy partner\u00ebt dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia vet\u00eb. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, mbajtja brenda e pasiguris\u00eb tuaj mund t\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb ndihesh i\/e vetmuar dhe t\u00eb mbushur me inat. N\u00ebse partneri yt nuk e di q\u00eb po kalon momente pasigurie, nuk do t\u00eb ket\u00eb mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb siguroj\u00eb. Me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, k\u00ebto ndjenja t\u00eb pap\u00ebrmendura mund t\u00eb rriten dhe do t\u00eb ndihesh edhe m\u00eb i\/e izoluar. N\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u2019i lejosh ato mendime negative t\u00eb p\u00ebrhapen, \u00ebsht\u00eb e vlefshme t\u00eb jesh i\/e hapur p\u00ebr nevojat e tua emocionale, pavar\u00ebsisht se sa t\u00eb ndjeshme mund t\u00eb t\u00eb duken.<\/p>\n
3. N\u00ebse po vendos n\u00eb pik\u00ebpyetje lidhjen t\u00ebnde<\/p>\n
Dyshimet p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb shqet\u00ebsuese dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb e zakonshme t\u00eb ndihesh i\/e frik\u00ebsuar t\u2019i shpreh\u00ebsh ato. Ndoshta shqet\u00ebsohesh se partneri\/ja po humbet interesin, ose ndoshta ke filluar t\u00eb pyes\u00ebsh veten n\u00ebse ke aft\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u2019u pajtuar afatgjat\u00eb.<\/p>\n
\u00c7far\u00ebdo arsye q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u2019i shtysh k\u00ebto mendime anash, duke i th\u00ebn\u00eb vetes se \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht nj\u00eb faze; ose edhe m\u00eb keq, duke i mbajtur p\u00ebr vete deri sa t\u00eb ndihesh se \u00ebsht\u00eb tep\u00ebr von\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i zgjidhur.<\/p>\n
Kjo tendenc\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb shmangur bisedat e v\u00ebshtira nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e panjohur. Nj\u00eb studim i botuar n\u00eb Human Communication Research, zbuloi se \u00e7iftet q\u00eb nuk i komunikonin dyshimet p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien kishin nj\u00eb mund\u00ebsi shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe p\u00ebr t\u2019u ndar\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Studiuesit madje zbuluan se mund t\u00eb parashikonin ndarjet q\u00eb ishin t\u00eb shtyra nga pasiguria me 90% sakt\u00ebsi, gjat\u00eb nj\u00eb periudhe tre-mujore. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, partner\u00ebt q\u00eb diskutonin hapur shqet\u00ebsimet e tyre me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, dhe madje k\u00ebrkonin k\u00ebshilla nga miqt\u00eb dhe familja, kishin tendenc\u00ebn t\u00eb zgjidhnin pasigurin\u00eb dhe t\u00eb q\u00ebndronin s\u00eb bashku.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Me siguri e ke d\u00ebgjuar th\u00ebnien, \u201cN\u00ebse nuk ke di\u00e7ka t\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb, mos thuaj asgj\u00eb.\u201d Sado i p\u00ebrs\u00ebritur t\u00eb ngjaj\u00eb, ky mendim ka vler\u00eb n\u00eb shum\u00eb raste. Pa dyshim, ka momente kur disa mendime ose v\u00ebzhgime \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb lihen t\u00eb patheksuara p\u00ebr t\u00eb shmangur konflikte t\u00eb panevojshme n\u00eb lidhjen t\u00ebnde.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":9338,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,2],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-9337","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-events","8":"category-lifestyle"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9337","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9337"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9337\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9339,"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9337\/revisions\/9339"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9338"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9337"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9337"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/revistatrend.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9337"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}